Modernized Courtship and Marriage: It’s Diversity from the Old Ways

Modernized Courtship and Marriage
By: Joyous Jan G. Subade
BSN I-G, Central Philippine University

There had been a lot of changes that this matter had undergone through the yeas. Once, courtship is considered as a sincere intention of a man to express and relate his feelings to a woman, and has to prove this through affectionate and masculine actions which could capture, not only the sentiments of the woman, but also the grant of her family.
However, marriage is of higher degree than that of courtship. It is considered as a sacred union of a man and a woman, who’s ready to conquer the trials of life in pursuing the right and wealth of their family with the blessings of God. In other words, it is the finality or bond of a minor relation of a couple. In here, they are obligated to supply the needs of their family in any way possible, and to sustain their wholeness until the next generation comes to being.
Sadly, this perception of the two seems to change nowadays. It is a part of the modernization of life, where old beliefs and social practices are evolved to a more liberated and tolerant manner, in which unconventional-minded people seems to favor, which sometimes lead to a ruthless consideration of the subject.
People see the importance of courtship and marriage as to just prove something to their selves, and achieve the experience of older men, to impress others that they’re an experienced individual in this field and be considered as a flexible being in the society.
But this could never be possible if only the higher authorities set an example for them to follow. Country-leaders started to approve proposals of amending the restriction of intolerable practices such as the legality of divorce and annulment in such nations. This has triggered individuals to marry someone even though they’re still not sure if they’re compatible enough or if they’re prepared to the maturity of mind in being a responsible parent. That’s why, it is observable that such citizens marry on and off, bearing children, then split after sometime due to lack of connection of the couple, or incompatible attitudes and character.
They are insensitive to the fact, that they’re letting a child grow, without the full attention from his/her parents. A mother’s love and care is quite different from the way fathers express it. Both have distinct functions in the rearing and upbringing of the child. They are responsible in inculcating moral education and ethics in the mind of the child, which would let the child grow knowing the do’s and don’ts of life and preventing the occurrence of unaccepted or intolerable actions in the community in the future- this will produce a noble citizen, that is socially competent for the society to make use in the future.
The world should be widely conscious and conservative about the subject of family, for it is kind of nature that the child had grown with, which is responsible to the way he/she responds to the greater environment the moment she is given the opportunity to interact with others. We must all promote social justice in the matter of giving greater significance to the value of marriage in the world, not considering liberated cultures. For we must all take this risk earlier, to prevent more internal difficulties in the future.